Gabor Maté’s idea of inviting the child into a relationship with you when they are not begging for attention was just the strategy we needed when our son (who has ADHD and Dyslexia) started having panic attacks! (Please read his book for more details.)
Unfortunately, he deleted my favorite video about parent/child relationships, but the video below explains his unique view of ADHD.
Sorry, his video refused to embed, but follow the link and you can watch it anyway.