Decluttering – Page 5 – The ADHD Minimalist

I originally started cleaning this way to help my daughter who has ADHD inattentive (ADD), but this cleaning method worked for my son who has ADHD (Hyper) as well. I believe this will work for children who have ADD or ADHD tendencies but do not qualify for a diagnosis. If you are not interested in how I came up with this method you can skip down to point number one. Children with ADD often have a hard time getting started on projects and assignments. That, combined with a short attention span, can make everyday chores, like cleaning their room, frustrating for the parents and the child. When my daughter was younger, she would often cry when I asked her to clean her room. The thought of sorting through all the different things in her room and trying to put them away was so overwhelming it invoked tears. The things in her room were randomly scattered all over the floor, and she had no idea how to sort them or where to put them. I often put her things in new places every time we cleaned together. I was trying to help, but this just confused her further. When I stopped and actually listened to her frustrated comments about cleaning, an idea struck me. I realized that she felt the same way about picking up her room as I felt about cleaning the family junk drawer! When trying to sort out the things in the junk drawer, I would often dump the contents out on the floor. Then I would stand and stare at the pile of junk, trying to grasp what on earth I should do with the wildly different items all mish-mashed together. Do those batteries work, I wondered? Would anyone miss those erasers if I threw them out? What does that key open? Finally, my eyes spotted something that I knew what to do with. Hair ties and bobby pins go in the bathroom! I trotted downstairs to put them away. My task of sorting through the junk seemed to take forever! I began comparing her room to my junk drawer. Kids' rooms are usually full of many different kinds of items. In-play, children may get out clothes to dress up in, play food, toy dishes, dolls, and stuffed animals, and possibly pens and paper to make a sign for their cafe or write a menu. They often smuggle water into bedrooms for mixing with clay or slime to make food for their customers. All of these things get mixed during play, and when the play comes to an end, kids can leave a massive mess in their wake. The messy room has so many different components it’s overwhelming for kids to pick it up by themselves. By trial and error, a strategy evolved to help my daughter clean her room. I wanted her to do as much as she could herself without too much parental involvement. 1. You must first show your child what you mean when you ask him to clean his room. I would suggest cleaning your child's room when he/she is not home. If they have too many art projects and toys, remove a good-sized chunk of the excess things. Put this in your storage room for 3 months. If they ask for any specific thing that you removed, give it back to them. If not, get rid of it. (Try to avoid showing them everything you removed, and don’t give it all back. Require them to ask for specific items.) I tried this with two of my children. My daughter thanked me after I removed the clutter from her room. She has a hard time making these decisions herself and felt a huge sense of relief in her cleaner, calmer environment. My son didn’t really care that I took things from his room, but he would usually ask for a few things back over the next few weeks. When he got his things back, he didn’t care about the rest of the stuff that he probably didn’t remember owning. If your child is angry that you removed his things, assure him that you have not gotten rid of anything. Whatever he wants back, he can have. Try convincing him to give the new clutter-free room a try before he gets anything back from the storage room. The rest of your child’s things should be organized in the child's room, the room vacuumed and cleaned exactly how you want it to look when the child does it himself. You can’t expect your children to clean their rooms to your standards if they have never been taught. 2. Ask your child if he can give some toys away to others. They may think of something you have already removed from the room. If so, tell them you know where it is, and you will make sure to give it away. Right before Christmas is a good time to revisit this step because many charities will accept gently used toys that they distribute to the needy. Having less in their room will = less mess to clean up. Photo by Cottonbro 3. After the initial clean-up, pick a home for each of your child’s things. Involve your child in deciding where things will be stored. Usually, kids have really good ideas. He will know best where and how he uses his things. Photo by Lukas from Pexels 4. Make a cleaning chart. If they can read, write it out, but if not, use pictures to show the order of the cleaning process. I find that I need to be available to my daughter while she is cleaning. I ask her to do one thing at a time and report back to me when she is done. Then I give her the next task. Breaking the down chore of cleaning her room into many small tasks takes the stress out of a job. When I give her one small job at a time, she can clean up her entire room with only a little guidance from me. She doesn’t cry and make a big fuss when I use this approach because she knows that she can do all the tasks on the list. I use the picture chart to remind her what to do next. Photo by Neosiam from Pexels The following things should be on your chart; Take all the dirty laundry to the laundry room. I always have her start with this task because it quickly gets a big mess off the floor and out of the room. Throw away all the trash you can see. Put all books back on the shelf. Throw away all the papers from old homework assignments. Fold and put away all the clean clothes you find in the bedroom. My daughter often leaves clean clothes lying about in her room. She takes out two shirts in the morning, picks one, and doesn’t put the extra one back. After a week, there is usually a pile of clean clothes that need to be refolded. Put all the loose legos in the lego box. Lego sets that your child wants to keep together go on a shelf or in a cupboard. Often children get these down when they are playing and don’t put them back up again. Put all the craft stuff away. I am seriously thinking about taking all the craft supplies out of my daughter's room and making a craft station in a different part of the house. Craft supplies are hard to sort, and usually, doing crafts produces huge amounts of trash. Whether you have craft supplies in the room or not, if your child likes to do crafts, he or she will have lots of finished or even half-finished craft projects in their room. These need to be gone through. A rule for how long craft projects are kept can be helpful. Giving your child a plastic box to keep their crafts in can be another way to solve this problem. When the box is full, they have to pick something to get rid of if they want to keep new projects. Sort all other toys into their bins or boxes. In order to make this easier you should not have too many different toy categories in your child's room. Consider rotating toys between your children's rooms and the storage room or making a playroom where you rotate toys. Having fewer categories to sort will make the cleaning process much smoother for your child. They won’t look at the toy piles on their floor and get overwhelmed if they only have a few categories to sort. For example, if all the toys are either Legos, Barbies, or pet shops, and they all have a permanent home, your child will know what category the toys belong to and where to put them without your help. Check whatever is left on the floor. If your child finds things they do not know what to do with, have them bring these things to you. You can then instruct them where to put each item. If there are old batteries put them in the recycling. If there are toys from your little sister's room put them back. If your child has ADD and really struggles with this task it may be necessary for you to do it for him. If I notice my daughter is tired or overwhelmed I let her leave these items with me and I sort them myself. Most likely you will find more trash at this point. Throw it away. You could have your child dust if you like. I usually help with cleaning once a month. I go in after my daughter has cleaned and I do most of the dusting, along with shaking out rugs and washing the windows and the mirror. You can have your child dust every week as part of their routine if this works for you. Vacuum the floor and you're done. After helping my daughter clean her room this way for some weeks, she started to clean the living room every once in a while. she began to spontaneously pick up her room once or twice a week. Giving her the tools to clean her room gave her the confidence to sort and put things away all by herself. Her room is still extremely messy at times. Usually, this happens when we have been swamped, but she knows that when she gets started, it doesn’t take long before her room is clean again. (Below, is my daughter's bedroom when we decluttered and redecorated!) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Gsw1isq3hw After we reorganized her room we redecorated it. If you need some inspiration for fixing your child's room read my other blog posts. Click below. A Monochrome bedroom decreased my daughter's stress and ADHD How to create a minimalistic, monochrome bedroom with easy-to-use storage (A Helpful illustrated guide) DIY Bedroom Storage, Lace On Cabinets, an illustrated guide. Why kids with ADHD need their own bedrooms Let me know if this works for you or if you have any ideas I should add. Send me an email at annie@theadhdminimalist.com. For more information and reading, tips check out Our Favourite Resources page! https://theadhdminimalist.com/our-favourite-resources/